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The MBTI of Lawless by Janeen Ippolito

September 30, 2017

I’m excited to be taking part in this blog tour, celebrating the release of Lawless, book one of The Ironfire Legacy by Janeen Ippolito!

I had the honor of reading this book in its early stages, and it’s so much fun. Dragonshifters and steampunk romance and airships. And lots and lots of intrigue and snark. Ahhhh, I can’t wait to get my hands on my shiny print copy so I can read it all again!! 😀

But of course one of the best things about a book is its characters. Today, I’m putting a spotlight on the major players of Lawless and their respective Myers-Briggs types. (I did this same kind of post awhile back for Blood Mercy: Thicker Than Watera novella which was co-written by Ippolito and her illustrator, Julia Busko. Also a really good story!)

Down at the bottom of this post, you’ll find another cipher for the blog tour scavenger hunt! But for now, without further ado, let’s meet the Lawless characters!

Kesia Ironfire – ENTP

Lawless‘s dragonshifter protagonist, Kesia, is a perfect example of an ENTP who has been “stomped on” by life and is slowly regaining her power and confidence. Convicted of murder at an early age, she’s been branded a criminal – bound to serve the dragon Pinnacle as recompense for her crime. But underneath her shame and uncertainty, she is a daring, fast-thinking, hopeful, and incessantly curious dragon. She and her fleetwing have a delightful, snarky relationship, grounded in their intelligence and wit, and it’s so fun to watch her acclimate to human society and discover new layers to herself and life that she never understood before.

Zephryn Nightstalker – INTJ

Kesia’s fleetwing, her military partner, is classically INTJ: a quiet, innovative, and critical deep-thinker, with a subtle but hilarious dry wit. It’s clear right from the get-go that he would do anything for Kesia, and her lack of self-preservation brings out his snark and protectiveness. When he’s not by her side, he enjoys burying himself in books and research. I love his cool inquisitiveness – when he doesn’t know or understand something, he goes after that information with a passion.

Shance Windkeeper – ESFP

Shance is one of my favorite characters in the book – an airship captain (with a special wind Talent!) who clearly loves life. As a sincere and loving FP type, he’s really not built for war. The brutality of it tears him apart, and while he does his duty, he’d much rather live in peaceful times – and kiss pretty girls, as he is quick to fall in love. This guy’s sensual SP side can be his downfall, but it’s hard not to like him anyway, with his natural charm and genuine affection.

Nula Thredsing – ENTJ

Nula’s less of a major character than the others featured here, but she has such a presence in this story that I can’t possibly leave her off this list! (Plus, she’s getting her own novella in the series later. And she deserves it. 😀 ) She’s powerful, calculating, and alluring – and as with most ENTJs, she’s got her own game plan and an intense drive to pursue her goals. I found her completely fascinating, and I’m excited to see more of her in future books.

More about Lawless!

The salvation of humans and dragons lies within a convicted murderer.

Dragonshifter Kesia Ironfire has one goal—to redeem her past by serving the cruel dragon Pinnacle as a soldier in the dragon-human war.

Then a rogue mission to spy on a new airship explodes into sickening green smoke. The same mysterious green smoke that was present the night of Kesia’s crime. When her dragon overlords deny any involvement, she and her tactical partner Zephryn Nightstalker try to investigate–and are sentenced to death.

Still searching for answers, Kesia and Zephryn flee to the human military capital, where Captain Shance Windkeeper has been furloughed after the destruction of his airship. Eager to discover what–and who–blew up his vessel, he agrees to help Kesia and Zephryn infiltrate High Command. In exchange, Kesia must pretend to be his betrothed so Shance can escape an arranged marriage. If only she knew what ‘betrothed’ and ‘arranged marriage’ meant.

But human social customs are the least of her worries. Dark secrets surface as Kesia delves deeper–secrets that challenge the facts of her crime and undermine the war itself.

Lawless just released yesterday (*throws confetti!*), and is available in the following places:


Uncommon Universes Press
(autographed paperbacks can be ordered here!)

Barnes & Noble



Also add it to your Goodreads list here!

Author Janeen Ippolito

Janeen Ippolito is two authors for the price of one! She creates writing resources and writes speculative fiction with monsters, misfits, and mushy stuff. She’s also an experienced author coach, editor, teacher, and the Fearless Leader (president) of Uncommon Universes Press. In her spare time, she enjoys sword-fighting, reading, geeky TV, and brownie batter. A lifelong misfit, she believes different is beautiful and that everyone has the ability to tell their story. Two of her goals are eating fried tarantulas and traveling to Antarctica. This extroverted writer loves getting connected, so find her on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and at her two websites: and

Blog Tour Cipher Clue!

Here is clue #5 for the cipher!

The next stop in the tour is the blog of Melissa Sasina. Thanks for stopping by!!


The MBTI Types of Halayda – And How to Ruin Their Lives (Guest Post by Sarah Delena White)

April 6, 2017

Today I’m excited to be part of the blog tour for my friend Sarah White’s incredible fantasy novel, Halayda. (Seriously. Pick Halayda up!! It’s one of the best books I’ve read all year! Also, have you seen the gorgeous cover?? *drools* My print copy is coming in the mail any day now and I CAN’T WAIT!)

Sarah’s taking over the blog today to talk about two topics close to my heart: the Halayda characters (who are amazing and you should get to know them), and Myers-Briggs typology. 😀

Take it away, Sarah!

The MBTI Types of Halayda
and How to Ruin Their Lives

by Sarah Delena White

I use Myers-Briggs typology a lot as an author. It gives me a good springboard for creating nuanced characters and figuring out what motivates them. Of course, part of creating a good plot is knowing exactly how to mess with your characters. Here is a sure-fire plan for ruining the lives of the major characters in Halayda, based on their MBTI type.

Sylvie – INFP

Sylvie is driven by compassion and empathy, and she always tries to see the best in everyone and everything. She’s exuberant and friendly, but also likes her alone time and her piles of fluffy blankets. Though very gifted, she doesn’t always trust her own abilities. Most of all, she fiercely loves her family and friends and will do anything to help and protect them.

If you want to ruin Sylvie’s life, make sure you put every single person she loves in danger. Geographic distance is especially helpful here, as it will frustrate her to know that someone she cares about needs help and she can’t reach them. It’s also very effective to throw a bunch of complicated problems at her and then talk down to her when she can’t immediately solve them. When she gets stressed out, don’t give her a chance to hide under her blankets. In fact, take the blankets away entirely—have them get washed away by a river or something.

Taylan – ESTJ

Taylan loves having control of his surroundings and his kingdom. He likes consistency and reliability, and he doesn’t appreciate sudden changes. He also has a tragic past and a lot of hidden scars from past failures and poor choices. He doesn’t trust or love easily, but the few people he cares for have his complete loyalty, no matter the cost.

The best way to mess up his life is to make sure he can’t control anything. Turn his entire kingdom against him. Have his magical abilities go haywire at a time when he desperately needs them. Throw constant small annoyances at him, such as forcing him to ally with shady characters or eat oatmeal in a room full of screaming children. Most importantly, make sure the woman he loves is in constant danger, and force him to choose between her and his responsibilities.

Diza – ENTP

Diza is highly skilled and intelligent, and has a far greater wealth of knowledge and experience than most people realize. She loves to work with the people she cares about, whether it’s her husband or her friends. She sees endless possibilities in the world around her, and she loves to discuss ideas with others. She’s exuberant and creative, and is happiest when she can use her abilities to the fullest and experience the world—or the multiverse—with people she loves.

The most effective way to ruin Diza’s life is to force her to work alone. Make sure there’s no one she can have intellectual conversations with. Force her to constantly have to make important decisions without discussing her options with anyone. Strand her in a world where she can’t access her full power or communicate with her otherworldly connections. Make her have to put herself on the line for someone who repeatedly rejects her. Top it off by separating her from her husband—the one person she trusts fully—and making sure she has no one to cuddle with.

Casimir – ENTJ

Casimir is bold, arrogant, and extremely intelligent and gifted. He’s a charismatic leader with his own vision for the world. Though some may take issue with his extreme measures, he does everything for the sake of a better future. Exiled from his homeland and cut off from the magic of Faerie, he has survived through science and strategy, biding his time until he can return to his homeland and give the faerie king the reckoning he deserves.

The best way to infuriate him is to upend his infallible plans. Have no one comprehend his great wisdom or respect his vision for a better future. Have his loyal servants regain their fallible free will and reject his guidance and foresight. Bonus points if his plans are thwarted the weakest, lowliest person possible.


About Halayda:

A mortal alchemist. A faerie king. A bond that transcends death.

Betrayed by a trusted mentor, Sylvie Imanthiya hides on the fringes of society, caring for half-fae orphans and trading her alchemical creations on the black market. She lives for the one night each season when she can see her dearest friend—a man whose destiny is far above hers.

King Taylan Ashkalabek knows better than to exchange halayda vows with a mortal. Even their friendship is a risk; love is an impossible dream. Then a brutal alchemical attack poisons his realm, unearthing a dark power within him—and leaving Sylvie with the ancient mark of Faerie’s savior.

Manifesting unpredictable abilities and aided by allies with their own secrets, Sylvie and Taylan journey into the wilds of Faerie to heal the damage and confront Casimir, an invincible star-fae determined to claim the realm as his own. But only their enemy knows Sylvie’s true capabilities—and Taylan’s weaknesses—and how to use them in his vicious schemes.

Her fate is life. His fate is death. With Faerie in the balance, Sylvie and Taylan must stand together before reality as they know it is destroyed.

Buy the book on Amazon here.

Sarah Delena White was raised by wolves in an alternate dimension. She writes eclectic speculative fiction that reworks mythology with a fine balance of poetry and snark. She’s an experienced world traveler who loves to weave world folklore and ancient concepts into vibrant, original story worlds. She is also the Benevolent Firebird (acquisitions editor) for Uncommon Universes Press. When she’s not writing or editing, she can be found making jewelry, singing Irish ballads, drinking tea, and working a variety of odd jobs. She can be bribed with dark chocolate. 


Favorite Characters of Blood Mercy: Thicker Than Water

October 26, 2016


I’m blogging today about a new book coming out at the end of this month! Blood Mercy: Thicker Than Water is co-authored by my good friends Janeen Ippolito and Julia Busko. It’s a riveting novella and if you like vampires (or if you don’t like vampires!) you should check it out! 😀

Here’s the blurb:

What would you do if the one you loved was turned into a monster?

Melrose Durante brings order. As founder of the Houses of the Dead, he tirelessly opposes the vampires, and provides refuge for the Blood Kind, those like himself who fight against the blood curse that leads to vampirism. His medical breakthroughs have brought many back from the vampire path. After thousands of years, the Blood Kind finally has the upper hand.

Until a vampire attacks Melrose’s family, then begs for asylum. To his friends she’s Lucy, a disturbed young woman prone to incoherent rants, warning of an imminent attack by vampire leader, Conan. But to Melrose she’s something more.

His lost wife, Jane.

One thing is clear – time is running out. In five days Conan will attack Quebec City, killing or enslaving all in his way. If Melrose cannot unlock his wife’s tormented mind, even his immortal wisdom may not be enough to save Quebec City, the Blood Kind, and the Houses of the Dead.

In addition to the plot and the fascinating world (where vampirism is caused by a blood disease), one of my favorite elements of this story were the characters. I love them. I love their relationships. I love their interactions. I also love that the romance elements center around married couples, which is unusual in fiction, and very heartwarming and refreshing.

Here are some of my favorite characters, their Myers-Briggs types (because I’m MBTI nerd) 😀 and some of the things that drew me to them most.


Melrose Durante (INTJ)

Protagonist of the story and fearless leader of the Blood Kind, Melrose stands bold off the page and was one of my favorite characters. He’s originally from ancient Egypt, so glimpses of his backstory were some of the neatest things about the book. As an INTJ, he’s highly principled – he holds strongly to his hatred of fighting and violence, for example – and he uses his renowned intellect and medical knowledge to bring healing to vampires and the Blood Kind. He’s cool, calculating, and driven by a fierce desire to help and protect others, especially his goddaughter and niece, Zuri, and her family.  Because of his particular strain of the Blood Curse, Melrose is afflicted with OCD, an aspect that the author portrays with faithful tenderness throughout the book. I really appreciated how well mental illnesses were handled in the story, whether they were more slight (as in Melrose’s case) or more extreme, as in the case of…


Lucille Jane Durante (ISFP)

Jane is a complex and compelling character, particularly so because of her mental state – dissociative identity disorder, which has left her warring between her brainwashed “Lucy” identity, and her true identity of Jane Durante…Melrose’s long-lost wife. Her strain of the Blood Curse gives her special mechanical skills and speedy learning abilities. She is highly skilled with a camera, in particular. Despite her mental illness, she’s sweet and snarky, and I enjoyed getting to know her and…I definitely ship her and Melrose. A lot. 😀  They balance each other out really well – grounded, earthy SP type with intellectual NTJ. She draws him out of his intense mind and brings out his romantic side.


Zurina Yamamoto (INFJ)

 Zuri and I share the same Myers-Briggs type, so I took particular note of her as I was reading. There is so much about her I relate to: her aversion to conflict, her ability to be compassionate even toward enemies, and her tendency to silently keep it all together on the outside when trouble strikes. She’s also a fierce, capable warrior and has certain…powers (I’ll give no spoilers!! But seriously, so much awesome). Zuri is running from something, hiding from something, which is teased at through the story. She’s a character for whom I felt very deeply, and I’m excited to read more about her in future installments of the Blood Mercy series.


Akira Yamamoto (ENFP)

 Ah, Akira…Zuri’s sweet, witty husband. I liked him at once! The survivor of an agonizing history, he hails from Japan originally, and has unique powers of perception (which I shall not spoil for you!).  He and his wife are a dangerous fighting team. He’s intensely devoted to Zuri, and cares for others so gently too…an enthusiastic and comforting presence.  I especially enjoyed his hospitality toward Jane, and the fact that he cooks.  Who doesn’t like a character who makes amazing food? 😀


Zeke Yamamoto

A list of my favorite characters has to include Zeke!! Zeke is Zuri and Akira’s small son. He’s a little young for his Myers-Briggs type to be obvious, but he’s adorable and a spot of sunshine in the story, tumbling through the narrative with his many doggie friends and his humorous childlike remarks.

To bring things back around to Melrose again, I loved seeing his perspective on Zeke as the boy’s great-uncle. The variety of ages and personality types in the story let us see many different dimensions of the characters, their roles, and their emotions. It gives them a deep, endearing realism that is rare in fast-paced, high-stakes stories like this one.


Blood Mercy: Thicker Than Water can be pre-ordered HERE, and releases on October 29th.

Be sure to join the launch party on Facebook!! It’s going to be a blast, and there will be lots of prizes and chances to learn more about these characters and their story. 🙂


About the authors:

2016janeenheadshotJaneen Ippolito is an idea-charged teacher, reader, writer, book reviewer, and the Fearless Leader of Uncommon Universes Press. She writes nonfiction writing help and speculative fiction laced with horror, humor, and cultural tension. Her co-written illustrated novella, Blood Mercy: Thicker Than Water, releases on October 29th. In her nonexistent spare time she reads, cooks, and sword-fights. Two of her dreams are to eat a fried tarantula and to travel to Antarctica. Go to for world-building resources and off-the-wall insights from this sleep-deprived author.

2016juliaheadshotJulia Busko (like “bus” and “co.”) is an illustrator, designer, writer, and the Elusive Unicorn (art director) of Uncommon Universes Press. In addition to co-writing with Janeen Ippolito, Julia has created book covers, made logos and t-shirt designs, and is planning a series of steampunk fairy tale picture books. In her spare time she dances with a local company and watches documentaries and horror movies. She strives for art filled with creative wonder and the beauty inherent in tragedy. Go to to dive into a world of remarkable visions and artistic musings.

Are you the same Myers-Briggs type as any of these characters, or do you know anyone like them? What are some books you’ve read recently with great characters and relationships?



The Diversity of Imagination

February 24, 2016


I love to hear about how radically diverse our souls and minds are, as human beings.  It’s part of why I love Myers-Briggs so much.  It’s delightful and mind-blowing to me how very differently people can approach similar things!  It’s what makes the world exciting and fun, that none of us quite think the same way.  It’s why our souls are so endlessly fascinating and we can keep getting to know more about one another forever.

Over the past week, I’ve been thinking specifically about writers and how we approach the task of getting to know our stories.

5 Different Imaginations

All my musings were sparked when I spoke with a writing friend, Janeen Ippolito, about our different approaches to writing and how our imagination handles our stories.


Janeen Ippolito – A Puzzle Approach

Janeen explained her approach like this:

I’m a major story collager. … I’m constantly moving pieces of story around into different realms. Stories, plots, characters, settings, creatures, all of those things. I’ve had plenty of things not fit and then are much happier other places. It’s making a system where everything fits and making the characters truly happy and fulfilled psychologically, emotionally, and spiritually. I handle it a lot like therapy. Tough love character and plot therapy.

Janeen’s approach sounds to me like her imagination dumps out a ton of puzzles into a heap, and she’s organizing and sorting and fitting everything where it ought to go. Sometimes a puzzle piece ends up in the wrong box and has to be moved.  She’s on a mission to make sure everything fits in where it should.  She often closely examines a character and digs deep down to understand what they need, and what their true place is.


Bethany A. Jennings – A Painting Approach

Janeen’s approach was so foreign to me!  Move an element from one story to another??  I almost never do that.  If I invent an element for one story, even if I delete it entirely, in my mind it still “belongs” there.  The way I think of my writing projects is entirely different.

I explained my approach like this:

I look so much at the integrity of the whole idea, as a whole. … For me it’s like taking a vision and fleshing it out until it is complete and whole and vivid, going down to the nooks and crannies to understand it and make the finished product as epic as the glimpses I got in my head.

For me, getting to know my stories is more like painting a picture. I have a vision in mind from the beginning.  I sketch it out.  I add more detail.  I add color.  If something I visualized doesn’t look right on the canvas, I paint over it with something else.  To me it makes no sense to then take the painted-over element and draw it on another canvas elsewhere!…it’s still there down under the top layer, quietly tucked beneath the finished masterpiece.  It might never see the light of day, but maybe it still provides a little bit of color or form to the finished product.  Each book is a painting of its own, some of them roughly sketched and some fleshed out to bright color.


RJ Conte – An Investigation Approach

Very different from either of us is my friend RJ Conte (who is an ESFJ).  Drawing her inspiration mainly from real life experiences and the people around her, she described her story-forming process as:

For me, it’s a character or a scenario that boggles my mind and makes me think, and then it’s figuring out the deepest recesses of that character’s heart as he or she goes through the situations life has thrown their way. Like saying, “Why WOULD someone do that or respond that way?” or “How would someone like that change?”

As many of her stories are issue-driven contemporary works, RJ considers her approach to be more like an interrogation or deeply getting to know a person and understand how they tick.  All other story elements are built around the characters and their relationships that are unique to each story, many of them drawn from her own experiences.


K.M. Carroll – A Snowball Approach

K.M. Carroll, another speculative fiction writer, has yet another completely unique approach to finding and understanding a story.  She said:

There’s this strange game called Katamari, where you roll a ball around and stuff sticks to it. First you’re collecting lint and paper clips and crayons, then you’re catching furniture and trees and buildings and clouds and rainbows. The idea (I think) is to collect enough mass to build a star. For me, building a story is like that. I start with a concept. Then I roll in characters. Then I build on their arcs and goals. Then I collect more cool worldbuilding ideas, and the ball gets bigger and bigger. But I can’t start writing until I find the Oomph, the magic, the particular sparkle that makes me excited to write it. That’s when it becomes a star.


H.L. Burke – A Casual Stroll Approach

H.L. Burke, an ENFP, has a more laid back approach than any of these:

It’s like taking a walk for me. I know where I’m going and generally how to get there, so I just start walking through the world, heading towards my story’s ideal conclusion, sometimes with highlights I want to see along the way, sort of how I might go into town for the bank but know very well I want to stop at the coffee shop and maybe browse the bookstore next to the bank and if I have time take my kids to the playground. This usually happens pretty instinctively and impulsively. I don’t pre-think my books much. They sort of spring fully formed from my head, wearing plate armor and all that. I may get distracted a few times along the path. I may meet someone along the way and end up talking to them for longer than I mean to or ask them to join me in my errands when I didn’t plan to, but I almost always end up at the destination I’d originally planned, maybe just with a few unplanned detours. My first drafts are also very similar to my final drafts. I rarely make big changes once things are on paper. I’ll make little changes all over the place, but big changes, not usually.

Each Writer Unique

My guess is that each one of us has a different way of imagining our stories, a different emotional approach to seeing and interacting with the ideas, and a different way of shaping them into the finished product.  It might even vary from book to book, too!  Perhaps writing The Kraesinia Trilogy feels like endlessly adding layers to a painting because I’ve been revising for years…I’ll be interested to see how writing a brand new draft of a book will feel to me.

I’d love to hear how your imagination works, fellow writers.  Is it like any of the approaches above?  Or is it entirely different?  Let us know in the comments!



June 15, 2015

Life is crazy and chaotic right now – we have the new baby in the house, and we potty-trained the two oldest kids this week as well, so there have been a lot of messes to clean and a lot of supervision for potty breaks.  Also, the third child – who was neither potty trained nor newly born – seems to spend every waking minute trying to get into as much trouble as she can!  (Attention-hungry much?) 😛  So this week’s post is just a thought ramble!

I’ve been thinking about sensitivity today.

As a generally sensitive and cautious person (INFJ and all), there are many times I’ve been pained by caustic snark – not that it’s directed at me, but the fact that the caustic snark existed at all.

I’m not a fan of vitriolic bloggers (*cough*Matt Walsh*cough*).  Even if I 100% agree with what a blogger is saying, if they’re using a tone of aggressive sarcasm, or flinging around insults, I grieve to see my views represented in such a way, a way that might raise ire or hurt feelings – or simply in a way that disregards the feelings of others or doesn’t consider them to begin with.  My uncle says I’m a “gentle soul.” 😛

I have a hard time laughing at anybody because I’m too busy studying my own motivations for amusement.  Am I taking advantage of that person?  Am I puffing myself up?  Might I hurt their feelings?  Am I laughing because I like to see the failure or stupidity of others because it make me feel better about myself?  Where other people see a funny joke, I see hidden layers of wrong attitudes, sinful attitudes, arrogance, or cruelty.

Am I just looking too closely?

Should I toughen up?

Would I be a more efficient, more effective person if I balanced out the sensitive side of me, got myself a better sense of humor, and stopped micro-analyzing stuff?

On the one hand, I believe balance is good and healthy.  It is possible to be too serious!  No one likes a stick in the mud.  And after all, most of my concern is based on possibilities, not reality.  Am I falling into the pitfall of being offended for the sake of someone else who could be offended, but in actuality is not – thereby making me the only one who’s offended at all?  Maybe sometimes.

But on the other hand…

I don’t believe that because snarky bloggers pain me with their tone, they should pack up shop and stop talking.

There is a time and a place for bluntness and snark.  There’s a reason the world has “feelers” and “thinkers.”  If we were all sensitive little flowers, nobody would ever get anything done, because nobody would confront anyone else over sin or anything else.  Some amount of conflict is necessary in this fallen world!  We need people who are tough and sharp and can do it.  Sometimes a tough, sharp voice is the only kind of voice that can be heard by somebody equally tough and sharp.

The world needs all kinds of voices.

So maybe there is a place in this world for the sensitive souls too.

I read an epic fantasy book last week (a review copy of Lands of Ash by H.L. Burke…WHICH IS TOTALLY AWESOME AND YOU SHOULD GO TO HER RELEASE DAY PARTY ON FACEBOOK this Thursday!! Squeeeee!).  Some of the characters are “empathic healers,” who sense and feel the emotions of others around them.  They heal people with this power, through thoughts and memories.  Unlike many of the other characters, they can’t go to war.  They can’t cause any physical harm to others because it will give them equal pain.  They can’t even squash a bug – they’ll have a headache for the rest of the day!  And this is so sickeningly INFJ, I know 😛 – BUT! – I immediately loved these characters and felt a kind of kinship with them.  (If I lived in the Kingdom of Forra, I would most definitely be an empathic healer. 😀 )

Sometimes they felt horrible for being so sensitive, so “ineffective” in the face of a cruel world that desperately needed strong warriors.  But then other characters would remind them of things such as these – You’re healers.  You do important work.  We need you here.  You don’t need to be able to fight in the battles because your task is to bind up the broken.

And in fact, there is a different kind of strength in their sensitivity…a different kind of power from that of the hardened warrior, but strength nonetheless.

A bruised reed he will not break, and a faintly burning wick he will not quench; he will faithfully bring forth justice… – Isaiah 42:3

People like to defend bloggers like Matt Walsh by saying, “Jesus said some pretty offensive things too!!”  But it seems to me that Jesus was a perfect example of balance.  He gave sharp words when they were warranted, and gentle admonitions for others.  He does not break bruised reeds, or pinch out weak flames.  Yet He will faithfully bring forth justice.  He has the power and strength to do so, and the wisdom to apply force or soothe injury as needed.

Being sensitive and cautious of others’ feelings isn’t a bad thing!  I have to understand that not all people are wired like I am, and the world needs the blunt-edged people, but the world needs us sensitive peeps, too.  Both are needed in our culture.  Both are needed in the church!  Maybe we should stop frowning at those who are “too hard” or “too soft,” and instead consider if they are merely misapplying their natural strengths.

The answer, I think, doesn’t lie in toughening everyone up or toning everyone down – sinners are rarely as perfectly balanced as Christ in this, and we need both sides, not just one kind of voice.  Ideally we should strive for that balance individually, but it’s also why He knit us into a Body together.  Not everyone is an eye.  Not everyone is an ear.  I’m so glad God made us unique and gave us various different gifts, and different voices to speak and different hearts to touch.

What are your thoughts?  Are you more of a sensitive flower or a snark warrior? 😀